Life is difficult

Life is difficult. It always is. I don’t want to sound like a pessimist but sometimes when you hear about sad stories. It just makes you wonder where did all the good things, and where did all the good people go. Went to CHIJMES today after work with Danny (fake name as usual), my colleague and good friend that I met while working in Maldives. Danny is about the same age as me, Indonesia Chinese, just got his PR and planning to get married in a few years time. He like most Indonesia Chinese traveling overseas to work, he is simply trying to find a better life in Singapore. In fact, he has plans to migrate here with his girlfriend after he gets a permanent job. But sadly, his girlfriend is unwilling to migrate to Singapore, reason being that living in Singapore is stressful and life is going to be much more difficult than what it is right now in Indonesia. Tough choice, hard decision. But for my friend Danny, after fighting so many years to get a job in Singapore and finally get PR status. Having to choose between career and his girlfriend was a pretty tough choice. All the hard work all the sacrifices, just so that he can build a better life together with his girlfriend. I don’t think it should be a choice; this is simply not the type of choice that one should be made to choose.

It’s hard either way. He can’t force her if she does not want to migrate and he certainly can’t bluff her into thinking that everything’s going to be ok, because life is going to be tough if they migrate to Singapore and that’s a fact. I can’t think of what advice I can give to help him, except to tell him to encourage her so that she can have the confidence to give this new life a try. Seeing a jovial guy like him so heartbroken and miserable, just makes me feel sad for him.

Walking should be better than sleeping; I can imagine him lying in bed pondering about the uncertain future that lies beyond him. Let’s hope that life will not be too harsh on good people like Danny. Let’s hope that he will find his happy ending, whatever the ending might be. As I always say, if life was easy then it won’t be worth living for right?

When you just cant take the stress anymore......